Discuss how growing up with white parents in a predominantly white town impacted Nicole’s understanding of her racial identity. How did her perception change as she grew older, went to college, and had children? Why?

What mainstream ideas about adoption does Nicole push back against? How does her book present a more nuanced view of adoption?

Compare Nicole’s attitude toward transracial adoption to that of her adoptive parents. What are the differences between these two views? How did her adoptive parents’ views impact Nicole’s self-perception?