Five Days Gone: The Mystery of My Mother's Disappearance as a Child

In her true-crime memoir, Five Days Gone: The Mystery of My Mother’s Disappearance as a Child (2019), Laura Cumming shares the story of her mother’s brief disappearance as an infant, and how the abduction shaped the Cumming family for decades. It was nominated for the 2019 Baillie Gifford Prize and the 2019 National Book Critics Circle Award for Autobiography. Cumming is a New York Times bestselling author and an art critic for The Observer. Although she writes fiction, she is best known for her books on self-portraits in art and her discovery of a lost portrait by a famous 19th-century artist.

Cumming bases Five Days Gone on first-hand accounts, historical documents, paintings, and photographs, reflecting on how the abduction shaped her mother and the family’s long-term future. Telling her mother’s story, Cumming exposes a complex web of family secrets and life-altering mysteries.

The book opens in the fall of 1929, on a small beach in Chapel, Lincolnshire, England. In the late afternoon on a weekday, three-year-old Grace plays on the beach with her mother, Mrs. Veda Elston. Grace has light hair and blue eyes, and she wears a blue dress with no coat over.



It is quiet on the beach because most people are at work, and so there are no witnesses to what happens next. Veda loses focus for a few minutes, which is all it takes for someone to kidnap Grace. Veda can’t believe what has happened. It has always been a quiet beach; she brings Grace there all the time. She has never had a reason to feel unsafe, and now, her daughter is gone.

A few days later, Grace reappears. She doesn’t tell anyone what happened, and she doesn’t seem overly distressed. Veda and her husband, George, decide not to press charges or pursue an investigation. All that matters to them is that Grace is safe and happy. They never speak of the incident again, and Grace forgets it ever happened.

Cumming discusses her mother’s upbringing in some detail. She describes how, after the abduction, Veda and George change. They don’t allow Grace to play on the beach anymore or let her play outside with her friends much. Worried that Grace knew her abductor because she didn’t scream or cause a commotion, they are suspicious of everyone, including family and friends.



The Elstons raise Grace in solitude. They are extremely overprotective, even as Grace gets older and wants more freedom. They also change Grace’s name to Betty, but Grace doesn’t know this until she is older. It is not clear why they changed her name right after the abduction until the truth outs itself 50 years later.

In Five Days Gone, Cumming exposes two major family secrets: first, her mother’s abduction, and second, her mother’s adoption. The Elstons are not Grace’s biological parents. They changed her name from Grace to Betty because they feared that her biological parents had tracked her down. They didn’t want Grace to know about her parentage for fear she would leave them to look for her birth parents.

Cumming explains that she’s the one who exposed these family mysteries. One day, she found pictures of her mother labeled “Grace.” She couldn’t understand why they changed Grace’s name to Betty, and so she set out to unravel the truth. By this time, George is long dead, and Veda is frail. She doesn’t want to answer Cumming’s questions, but she soon realizes that it’s time for the truth to come out.



Eventually, wanting to know if they kidnapped Grace, Cumming tracks down Grace’s real parents. Even if they were not responsible, she wants to know why they put Grace up for adoption and if they are interested in meeting their daughter. Throughout this part of the book, Cumming reflects on family photographs to build a picture not just of Grace’s history, but of English life in the 1920s and 1930s.

Cumming’s investigation reveals that George is Grace’s biological father. He married Veda but slept with a young woman Hilda Blanchard. When Hilda got pregnant, George made her sign the baby over to him and Veda. Hilda moved to Australia where she kept a photograph of Grace beside her bed, and George regularly sent her pictures of Grace growing up. Wanting to spend a few days alone with Grace before giving her up forever, Hilda took her from the beach that day.

Five Days Gone exposes the mysteries of ordinary family life. In the book, Cumming explains that we all have secrets, even if some are less life-changing than others. She urges us to take another look at family photographs and to ask questions about the people in the frame and whoever is taking the photographs. By delving into our own family history, we can form new bonds with our relatives and learn more about our past.