1. General Impressions

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

• Gottlieb structures her narrative by alternating between her experiences as a therapist and as a patient. How does this dual perspective affect your understanding of the therapeutic process?
• The author merges elements of memoir, case studies, and psychological insight. Which of these narrative approaches did you find most compelling, and why?
• Gottlieb’s portrayal of her professional missteps and personal vulnerabilities adds a layer of authenticity to the narrative. How did this honesty influence your perception of both therapy and therapists?

2. Personal Reflection and Connection

Encourage readers to connect the book’s themes and characters with their personal experiences.

• The book explores how people often resist confronting difficult truths about themselves. Which key figure’s resistance patterns felt most familiar to you, and what did you learn from their journey?
• Gottlieb describes several breakthrough moments in therapy, both as a therapist and patient. Have you experienced similar moments of sudden clarity or understanding in your own life?
• The author discusses how her patients’ stories began affecting her own emotional journey. How have other people’s experiences of growth and change influenced your personal development?
• Many of Gottlieb’s patients tell stories about themselves that are at odds with the reality.